I need to tell him this!

I recently overheard someone say to another, “He’s gone religious on me,” as if they had done a bad thing. I suppose this happens to many of us when we come to faith in Jesus Christ. We lose a few beer drinking friends and are talked about behind our backs. But getting the title “Religious” for me is like getting awarded a purple heart. We get this award when we are wounded by direct or indirect enemy action. Just open your mouth and say, “Jesus is my Lord and Savior ” and you will for sure take on enemy fire. It’s an honored experience among true believers.

I have a friend that I’ve not seen in many years. He hasn’t been nice to his wife, drinks too much, and regularity fries his brain on weed. An opportunity to talk with him is imminent. So what do I say to him? Some will say I should just love on him. We all know that’s code for not telling him that his actions require repentance. They will say, “don’t judge him” for surely he’ll think you are a Jesus Freek and not listen to you anyway. In many cases they’re probably right. But that’s not how I think and I don’t think that’s biblical. Is it shameful to tell someone the most direct way to restore one’s marriage and clean up their life is through faith in Christ? The risk of being called “religious” behind my back is not so great a price here, is it? I can think of all the other ways to approach someone like my friend, but they are not foundational solutions, they’re more like a non stick bandaid. Get it wet and it falls off. My friend needs a change of heart. A change of heart is like the proverbial saying “If you teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime.” I think telling him the best way to reconcile and love his wife is to love Jesus. To love Jesus is to believe in Him and follow his teachings.

So what course will I take with my friend? In his case and given the opportunity, I will carefully begin by telling him that being a Christian is not a wimpy endeavor. In fact being a Christian takes courage. It means once you are fully trained and open your mouth you will surely take on incoming fire. Like Jesus and the Martyrs you could even be crucified, or burned at the stake. But the most likely outcome is that you get that loving feeling back, make some necessary adjustments with your wife, and others will say, he’s gone all “religious” on us. I think that’s a good trade off in itself. But wait, there’s more!” I’ll tell him Jesus will do a number on him by completely changing him for the better, and He will give him that little thing called eternal life.

So to my friends who say “just love on him.” Just loving on him means to me opening my mouth and telling him about Jesus. I will tell him about repentance and baptism, and obedience. I’ll tell him about warfare and spirtual armor. I’ll let him know that being a believer will be both a dangerous and courageous endeavor, if he goes all in. If he doesn’t go all in he may think he will have to give up being a man and doing “manly things.” I’ll tell him that won’t happen if reads his bible and prays. I will tell him he won’t have to self identify as a wimpy, weak hymn singing church pew if he comes to Christ. He won’t even be required to be a “nice guy.” Better yet, he will love this, he likely won’t have to go to a twelve step program to get clean and get his family back; the love of his life back. He will only need to take one step to receive the irresistible grace of God. To radically change his life forever he will only need to have faith that Jesus came, died for his sins, and rose again. I need to tell him this.

My stay at “The Manor” in Snainton UK

I rarely write publically about my stays while traveling, but this stay needs a loud and enthusiastic review. One of my Romatic fantasies has been to stay in a classic, original, and historic manor house in England. And I never thought it would be possible through Booking.com.

Our host Helen lists her Grade 1 three bedroom home in Snainton UK, just thirty minutes from York. A grade 1 property is a site of exceptional national, architectural or historical importance. Her listing, in tune with her character, presents humble information and photos – from our perspective her words are understated.

Her property is beautiful, full of character, and tastfully decorated. Sure there are some quirks like low doorways through which I routinely smacked my head on, even after being warned. Many of these quirks can’t be fixed as the historical regulations keep upgrades at bay. The building is over 300 yeats old. Still I find the property equal, if not better than many multi million dollar homes in my neck of the woods, including ours. It’s wonderfully cozy and can accommodate six adults, but only my wife and I booked it. We have the huge footprint all to ourselves. I believe it has five rooms an average hallway and a kitchen just for us.

From the classic private entrance to the flower gardens, ivy clad walls, and crisply patterned cut grass every thing about this place bleeds serenity and romance. If you’re not happy walking about this property you probably think a Motel Six parking lot is luxury.

I’ll not overplay my hand here as I don’t have permission to talk up our stay and I’m not a paid influencer, I simply stayed here with my wife in September of 2022 and we loved it. If you’re lucky you’ll stay here someday too, but hurry, Helen told us she’s thinking about selling the property. Enjoy!

Sorrows, When God Brings Them

It is a hard thing to experience sorrow. But the Bible is pretty clear that sorrow affects us all. Among other things, conflicts, depressions, longings, and mornings can bring on sorrows and people are usually at the heart of our sorrows. Hardly has a zucchini caused us true sorrows. I suppose a spoiled crop or a tasteless dish could bring us worldly sorrows of sorts but they’re usually conflicts, fears, and loves lost that cut the deepest.

Sins can also produce sorrows. Suppose you’re live in such a way that dishonors God. In such cases do you suppose God sits by un-affected and takes His humiliation while you continually slap his face?

So here comes the question, does God make you suffer in your sin? Well, my answer might surprise you unless you’re familiar with the two books by Paul written to the Corinthians.

I’ll quickly sum up what our culture thinks to be cruel. God often does sends affliction and suffering! It can come by temporary affliction, or even something quite humbling like hearing from friend that you had better shape up. There is an example of this idea in Corinthians. A man sinned, but worse yet he remained in that sin unchallenged. When Paul learned this he sent his letter to the Church. He taught the Church that without repentance the church is to forsake even the presence of that brother until he get his act together. Sounds pretty harsh right? Kick the guy out of the church because he’s living publically in sin? That’s judgmental right? Are you surprised that not many churches follow this rule today? Well, before you blast the scriptures and God, stories like these don’t always end with judgment, but with repentance. True, for those who hold on to their sin their judgment is certainly banishment, death, and gnashing of teeth. But for those who repent sorrow turns into rejoicing. It’s the redemption story that our current culture has forgotten and the point made in the teaching. Don’t only focus on judgements, judgements with purpose have their place.

So it is possible that these sorrowful judgments, along with loving kindness, may, with God’s help, make someone sorrowful even to the point of repentance. So sorrow can be a tool. Yep, sorrows can be a loving gift from God. In the Corinthian example, “you were made sorrowful so that you might suffer loss, but only to the point of repentance, and the according to the will of God.” You can read the account for yourselves in Corinthians, specifically 1 Corinthians chapter 5 and 2 Corinthians chapter 7.

Remember the point of these judgements is repentance and comfort. A changed heart, and a different direction is the goal – well kinda. It is not repentance alone that lead us to a “salvation without regret”, but there is definitely a Godly sorrow that “avenges in this life the wrong in us.” This judgment acknowledges that there is a price to be paid for sin and Christ paid the price for our sins.

Here we realize the benefits of judgements, that godly repentence comforts our sorrows and our faith in Christ brings peace.

In Paul’s case his letter confronting the mans indiscretion likewise caused sorrow to fall upon himself. Yet it was his duty to confront the sin in the Corinthian church. You likewise may also rejoice when your friend is made sorrowful to the point of repentance. You could also examine your own sorrow. Is God causing your sorrow to bring attention to one particular sin in your life? Avoiding the subject of sin will not help you, sorrows can.

In the end we must accept that faith in Jesus Christ does not keep you from God’s instructive discipline. And should you wander it is also a comfort to know that sorrows can be the device God uses to bring you to repentance. In other words, when bad things happen it may indeed be God. And your friend may be the trouble God uses to inspire you to faith. What a great God we serve, he sends us both love and troubles. He leads us to eternal comfort and joy. Amen

Are You Of The World

There was a time when I watched television and went to the movies. I enjoyed television cartoons, sitcoms, and even the news. Fantasy, futuristic, cowboy, and manly movies were cool too. This “entertainment” made me think or simply made me happy. I believe I first stopped watching TV after Happy Days, and I can say happily I’ve probably watched less than ten movies at a movie theater in the past thirty years. Nothing in particular chased me away, I rather just found the content uninteresting and I had too many other things to do.

Now I’m not saying I never watch TV or an occasional movie. I do watch classic movies, mostly pre 1970’s, and my wife enjoys it when I watch music shows with her. I do my best to stomach the agenda personalities, but for the most part they stay away from the hot topics because not everybody has issues.

The other night, however, after we watched American Idol, I left the channel on and was intrigued by The Good Doctor. I’ve heard it was a “good show” and it was for the most part. But like almost every other time I give the world a chance they have dissapointed. In this case the subject matter was intriguing, but like all other shows post 1980’s they interjected the subliminatal agenda of sinful ideology. They unnecessary forced into an otherwise perfect script, homosexuality, racism, sexuality, and the use of drugs to calm anxiety. “It was all so innocently expressed,” some might say. For me, I’ll never watch it again.

Of course there were movies in the past that definined racial inequity and objectified various inequities. We all knew a Sidney Poitier movie was going to be a deep dive into racial injustice. Or we knew a James Dean movie was going to be a culture trip. But we had choices back then. To watch a movie without cursing or a political agenda was pretty nice. And the outcomes were almost always happy endings.

Just look at what Disney is doing these days. Hardly a movie or show they produce is without the influence of a liberal agency. And I remember the few times I’ve watched HGTV you would think half the universe was gay. Now school children are being indoctrinated in first grade to “The Agenda.” Folks it’s getting worse out there. We all know the acceptance of pedophilia is not far away.

Unless you’re like me you may not see what I see. I’ve not been desensitized. When I do watch the world’s media it’s appalling and in most cases disgusting. And you’ll notice I hardly addressed the sexualizing of everything.

So, you might say I’m a dinosaur or at least a relative of the Cleavers. If so, thank you, I’m proud of it! I’m not naïve of what evil is, I just avoid it.

Weapons of Hope

This culture is weaponized to destroy our children, and it is systematically designed to do it. What weapons you ask? Consider or public schools, the media, political groups, liberal corporate entities. They all have their role in promoting abortion, homosexuality, racism, transgenderism, and the weakening of parental control. They promote, foul language, sexual innuendos, injustice, the twisting of truth, and all the other vices of wickedness. But I’m not complaing, however, because it’s crazy to think that something created good and controlled by a godless culture will remain good, even when or if it begins well. Public education, for example, began with reading, writing and arithmetic, lessons designed for the betterment of all. But we all know now how Satan’s warriors have diluted the good and introduced the bad. Eventually all man made things fail in society. Castles crumble, empires fall, ideals like fashions become passe. Conservatives by nature are try to preserve the past and liberals push to destroy it with progressive idealism, but each fail miserably.

Still what is true, and good, and righteous can never be changed. God’s word for instance. It cannot be changed. People can twist it to say things like black people are OK to own, but eventually truth is revived and we relearn “all men are created equal in God’s eyes.”

So while the world often sucks, and the powers to be can be rightfully blamed for its demise, I’m hopeful. I’m hopeful because what is good and perfect and righteous can never be exterminated. And for those of us who believe in redemption, Jesus dying on the cross for our sins and raising us to eternal life through faith, well, life in a fallen world is not so unbearable; although we often groan for something better. We enjoy our eternal position because God called us to it. We love our neighbors, we love our lives and we fight against the culture that consistently destroys itself from within. This is living.

It’s Sunday Oct 24th, 2021

Have mercy, have mercy on me cried Bartimaeus the blind man as Jesus walked by. But some tried to keep the blind man quiet. Consequently he yelled even louder. Jesus finally heard him as he drew near and said to the others,”call him here!” Then Jesus asked the man, “what can I do for you?” The man said, “I want to regain my sight,” and Jesus replied, “go your faith has made you well.” What a nice story right, a Hallmark ending.

But I noticed something new from this old story today. The blind man did something we don’t see too often. He cried out for mercy. But why? I’m pretty sure Bartimaeus had not attended church, bible studies, seminary, or even met Jesus before. He hadn’t read articles or saw Jesus on the cover of Time Magazine. But he must have known that Jesus was capable of restoring to him his sight. He was simply begging for mercy, asking Jesus to do for him something that he could not do for himself.

If you are not a Christian already, haven’t you heard all your life about this man Jesus? This is America. You know way more about Jesus than this man did, what’s your excuse? You know Christians like me believe he was crucified and rose from the dead, I’ve not been shy about my faith. I said before that He healed the sick, restored the sight of the blind, raised the dead, and ascended to heaven. I know you have heard mercy is at the core of forgiveness and your life is far from glorious perfection, right? This Jesus guy said, if the blind will turn to me and have faith, they will be made to see. He said if you have faith as small as a mustard seed you can move mountains. So why not cry out for mercy yourself? If our gospel is veiled, it is veiled only to those who are perishing. Are you perishing? Or is Jesus calling you? I’m telling you He is nearby! So scream “Mercy.” Scream it till He hears you. Faith and mercy are at the core of receiving your sight and His eternal forgiveness.

Have a blessed sunday.

The Metaverse

The real world is nuts. But if you think things are bad in reality what about this “metaverse” every company is talking about?

Right now the metaverse is essentially a digital universe where people can buy clothes for the avatar they create. The idea is to create an alternative you to live in a world the imagination designs. It’s a place where you get to decide who you want to be. So if you want to be the good guy or the creep, it’s up to you. Sounds cool right? But what can be more sinister than letting you have your way?

They say the digital universe has no rules, right? How wrong you are! In the real world we have laws, a constitution, historical norms, biblical traditions. But in the metaverse corporations set the rules. They set the boundaries. This is why CEO’s are so excited. In this space they can shape your mind, distort your reality and totally get away with it. But I won’t blame them for all the worlds ills. In this space our own alter egos will allow us to be rapists or thieves, woke or conservative, Godly creatures or heathen devils. This makes the identity crisis of today like playing with Barbie dolls. The consequences of our actions in the metaverse will be “moderated” by corporations,  much like Facebook does today. Does this sound fun? Imagination will have the freedom to shape the digital world. Its morals, its margins, its beliefs, its ideals will be regulated and supervised by corporate elites. This is why Zuckerberg and others are pushing their companies toward the metaverse. In some cases the metaverse will just be like a fun video game, but if silicon valley builds it, it will likely be a place like Hell; a social experiment that has little upside.

I think about this stuff and I’m warning you, the real world has enough troubles of its own.

What Progressive Really Means

What is it to be a Progressive?  To me they are people with good but misdirected intentions and utopian ideals.


I used to think Utopia was the jargon of science fiction or more like a fairytale; a harmless intention of the imagination, but I was wrong. Peter Hitchens the British Journalist recently described the Utopian reality as something “that can only be approached over a sea of blood, and you never arrive.” And he said if you know your history all attempts at Utopian societies have in fact failed. I think this is partly true because they believe that Kings, social justice warriors,  and reconstructionists are solely accountable to mankind. And partly because they believe in what Hitchens and I call “Selfism.” These folks are too dim to understand the benefits of the ordered society they currently enjoy and too autonomous in their thinking to believe it’s not just your body, there is a baby inside, you cannot do with it whatever you want. Such progressives are schizophrenic. They wish to be both self governed and have community assigned limits over the rest of us. They want individual powers and authoritarian limits defined by the needs of the ‘community’ as embodied by the state.

Christianity takes a different path. To Christians, law (God’s law) is above all human power and the whole of christian thought is not to reform society but to reform the individual soul. Reform the individual soul and society will simply be better off. It takes a different way of thinking to understand this. The progressove left believes the endless interventions of an all powerful government will lead us to a moral utopian society. This is just not the case.

We have seen that the left (combine the progressive “left” with the loudest atheists, radicals, and unbelievers) in reality only obey the law when it suits them. This is perfectly plain to see in our present society. People only obey the temporal law when it is enforced. This is because people are flawed and they can be nothing else but flawed, or flawed and forgiven; and only Christ can forgive us. Immanuel Kant said, “Out of the crooked timber of humanity, no straight thing was ever made,” and he was right, this is why Christ came. This is what I firmly believe.

Further, the whole point of Christian law is to obey it if only God is watching. But the whole of Utopian law is to administer justice according to what the mob consents to, then crush all decent.

But I can hear some of you saying to have “progress” is to be progressive!  “Things are better today than they were a hundred years ago, right?” Here I must ask is it progress for liberal parents to oppose the spanking of children and feed them mind numbing drugs like Ridilin instead? Is it progress to stop funding the police and have crime and murders soar instead? Is it progress to own several cars, support a coal burning plant to power your Apple cell phone, own 22 pairs of shoes, and have Facebook to search out children to exploit?

Progress to many means they “like” more of the things that are happening today than they used to. If you say things are changing I’ll agree to that. But are they changing for the good? This is debatable! Things therefore are not necessarily better if we cease to be cruel in one way and become more so in another, that’s not progress. To the progressive the goal is not simply medical and scientific progress, but they also wish to slide the scales in favor of unlimited personal indulgence. Some say, “I’m fiscally conservative and socially liberal.” This idealism is not necessarily good, as good is often the sister of evil. Look at divorce, this is a socially acceptable norn these days. The progressive left pushed for the “freedom” to divorce your spouse for no particular fault. What a disaster that created for society, but it is not even remotely argued against today. Even the church bought into the evil of it. Was this progress? Is the indescriminate killing of babies in the womb progress? Is trying out several boyfriends or girlfriends before marriage progress? The appeal of the progressive left is always to rid ourselves of the hornets nest by burning down the house. This happened with Covid for sure.

I could go on and on but for those of you who “think” I believe you might be getting bored, and for those of you who are progressives, you are likely getting steamed, so I’ll  stop. But I’ll leave you with this thought. The deep dive into truth is often the most frightening, but also the most enlightening. Take the time to consider what “progressive” really means. The jump off that train might hurt a little, but i believe you’ll be happier if you do!

A Sure Way to Get Banned On Facebook – Have an opinion they don’t like.

I know “wokeness” an “CRT” are the newest deceptions perpetuated by the left, but the transgender thing is back in our faces with the Olympic trials and upcoming Olympics. I say “deceptions” because the definition fits – “to cause someone to accept as true or valid what is false” is the definition of “deception.”

Now we all know they are the ideological liberal progressive institutions and aristocratic elites that are perpetuating the great LGBTQ++ lie. These so called tastes of a long established aristocracy is evidence that Satan has been at work for a long time. But the tastes of these deviants are now being accepted and mimicked by the bourgeoisie. People have always struggled with and often openly practiced lifestyles inconsistant to the laws God, but this current sense of community has not been present since the days of Rome and Sodom and Gomorrah. It is said that this is a move to a more socially “inclusive” society, when in truth it is a militant step backwards to a time when people of faith, conscience, and convictions were banned, torched, and crucified (we have so far only reached banned and imprisoned in North America).

The problem has always been that participants in these sins do not fully accept what is universally and eternally true. Living without reference to or dependence upon the temporal portions of reality they cannot see truth because they are blind and deceived. For example, this is a “man,” the one in the photo, the one who two weeks ago decided he is a woman, will be competing as a woman in the Olympics and no matter what he identifies himself to be and how flattering and supportive the, also deceived, announcers will be, he was born a man. Now to be clearer, I’m not saying he can’t love or be loved, I’m just saying he is being duped, defrauded, and swindled (or maybe we are being duped?). This by a “society” that bullies and/or deceives its victims. He and all those who support this deception sadly exemplify the level of deceit that has darkened a once brighter world.

So let us presently focus on us. What do we do if we will not conform to “community standards,” to societal pressure; if we refuse to buy into this lie and enthusiasticly root for all the women who will sadly have to compete against this behemoth; if we believe this is not a “transgender, blah, blah, blah, but a man who has been chemically and psychologically modified; if we say things like he is confused and has a dysfunctional image of himself?

For me to think and say things otherwise is to myself be deceived. To me he is a man, a son, a grandson. How do those pronouns sound? Pretty manly if you ask me. He may be kind, gentle, generous, and even display female tendencies. He may even like to wear dresses ( wierd but not necessarily deluded), but he is still a man. To believe otherwise is to subvert the beauty, function, and purpose of God’s image. To believe otherwise is to think of myself as something I’m not. The creation of man and woman is a holy thing I can love them and gently honor them both with high respect and great esteem. But I will not go along with and admit to myself that something is true when it is not.

Success meets opportunity

I constantly run into people who complain about their finances, and I often give them advice. My advice is simple, “always, take advantage of opportunities.” Whether they are educational opportunities, job opportunities, or investment opportunities, when you see something that interests you learn all about it and go for it! Most people however appear to wallow in their current situation, get frustrated, and never take steps to make their life better off (financially).

I must take a quick stop here to say the happiest people I know are poor people, so don’t go chasing wealth thinking more bucks are going to solve your problems (God and faith work here). But there is a financial number that works for each of us. For some it’s just getting by, for others it’s having toys, for most of us it’s not having to say, “I can’t afford things like an occasional steak, a dinner out, or getting our kid braces.” I remember the days when having a reliable car was everything. Just remember everything beyond the basics is luxury (most don’t see it my way).

I built it all by myself

Anyway, back to my advice. And I’ll be blunt. It’s actually quite easy to make a good living in America and we should be really happy it is. Now I cannot say much to those of you who have “jobs.” I had “jobs” early on and I hated them. All I can say here is find the job and wage you want, look at the qualifications and work your way towards those qualifications. And learn to communicate. That means stop everyone you meet and try your best to make them laugh, ask them questions, and sincerely try to get to know them. This is not like adding FB friends. It’s more like inviting someone to a party or helping them find a job. A good friend of mine has a saying, “show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

So how does one make money if you are entrepreneurial in nature? The answer is quite simple. Stay focused! I stopped by a business the other day. I knew the owner and asked how’s it going? His answer was,”great!” I asked again. Great in what way, you making any money?”

“Oh ya,” he replied, “we’re killing it!”

So I asked, ” What’s your long term plans?”

“Interesting you asked. I just put the building up for sale, I want a slower pace. I’d be willing to train the new buyer if they want the business too,” He freely told me.

I then asked about his cash flow, his gross sales, expenses, and his net. He said his daily gross is $1,000 up to $2,700 on a good day and he nets $800/day for he and his wife. I then asked so what’s your selling price, he said $250k for the building, about $289k for the building and business.

Folks, that’s cheep! So where is this building and business you ask? Well, I’m not going to say! What I am going to tell you is there are hundreds of opportunities just like this in or around where you live. You may need to open your mouth, ask questions, learn about business, and understand a little about real estate. But most importantly you may need to be more inquisitive. And of course you’ll need a few bucks saved to jump on opportunities like this.

The sad news is, most of you would want to know what kind of business is this or think “that’s hard work.” Or maybe, “I could never live there the winters are too harsh.”

So we come back to the truth. Full circle if you will. You’d rather complain about not making money, you’d rather play video games and never talk to strangers or business owners, you’d rather wait for something to fall into your lap. Wait, wait, wait, till it’s too late.

Wake up this is still America, the land of opportunity. Stop listening to the politicians, you don’t absolutely need a college degree or get your start delivering packages for Amazon. If you need to work hourly to save a bunch of money do it! Believe me, you you can do things in fields you have not invested an interest in. And if you want to learn, communicate, and build a solid circle of friends you too can make a great living. Good luck.

About me: I’m a happily retired Christian and former small business owner who has made money in all sorts of ways. I’ve done things I didn’t necessarily like, bought and sold a few of my own businesses. I put a lot of sweat into my own homes and office buildings. I mowed the grass and took out the garbage. I learned about investing and the power of compounding interest and I’m not afraid to make friends, to learn, and ask stupid questions to make myself smarter and more successful. If you need more advice I’d be happy to help, I want you to be successful too!